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Have you ever thought whether you might have an imposter syndrome?<\/b><\/p>\n

Earlier in the summer, giving a series of talks to a large financial institution in Singapore, I enjoyed how deep we got in the Q&A time.<\/p>\n

In particular, we went into depth with a question of ‘why’ I do my adventures, by reflecting on how, on my latest trip, when faced with a series of major setbacks (which certainly felt like a point of ‘failure’ at the time), I was forced to face my motivations most honestly.<\/p>\n

I had many motivations for doing that journey, but one of them, I had to admit, was to do with ‘imposter syndrome’.<\/p>\n

I realised I wanted to prove that I was a great adventurer!<\/p>\n

I felt insecure with what I had done (or not done) in the adventure world – the adventures not being epic enough, I’m not tough enough etc. I was afraid of what others might think if they really knew me.<\/p>\n

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Imposter syndrome is extremely common amongst those who have achieved some degree of success.<\/b><\/p>\n

When I openly shared about this with these very high achieving people (MDs, senior VPs, and so on), it was amazing how many heads were nodding in agreement.<\/p>\n

But ‘imposter syndrome’ is not easy to get rid of.<\/p>\n

I think a good first step, and a healing one, is just to admit it.<\/b><\/p>\n

Admit to ourselves, admit to trusted friends, and realise that probably we are not alone.<\/p>\n

The next step is trying to understand it.\u00a0<\/b>To realise that everyone’s success has come through a mixture of ability, hard work and luck. To understand how the syndrome affects us. To understand ‘who’ we might be trying to prove ourselves to, ultimately.<\/p>\n

For more on imposter syndrome, check out this helpful Psychology Today article<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

Enjoyed this? Try this other post<\/a> about how, to “die with zero”, might be a good way to live.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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